Saturday 25 May 2013

Terburu-buru.....

Tension giler mlm ni...susah nk ckp...n berkali-kali ckp...x faham- faham..so sad to org yg suka jump to conclusion ...bila ty berkali2...once jawab...terus utc...some feelings cant be describe...cant be told...cuba la paham...I need space...I need time...hurmmm....tp once ckp ...rasa release...love is difficult...but it is so easy to fall in luv...n it is so easy to let it go...dont force to luv if u dont hv any feeling anymore...love without trust also useless...sakit hati...damn...I already make my decision...it suppose to b the rite decision that I ever made......for both side...to u:...dont always jump to conclusion cuz akan memakan diri...jgn promise kalau x dpt buat apa yg dkata...dont brag if u never did it....hope u will b fine n find the rite girl ...who can understand u...be with u...like u said ....it so easy to find other girls...so go n find that suit u....end of my happy ending....xoxoxo

Thursday 16 May 2013

itsmesalrini: MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS...

itsmesalrini: MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS...: This is only a story that i like to share... “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I'v...

MARRIED OR NOT, YOU SHOULD READ THIS...



This is only a story that i like to share...

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up

Wednesday 15 May 2013

xxxxx.....F.R.I.E.N.D....xxxxx


Be very careful who you tell things to ~ you never know who is running the gossip mill ~ you can never tell who is a TRUE FRIEND or a FAKE FRIEND nowadays!
The one thing I hate more than haters is the people who pretend to be your friend when they really aren't.Sometimes we expect more from others, because we'd be willing to do much more for them; & as we grow older we don't lose friends, we learn who the real ones are....thinks it's sad when someone says "they have your back", then when push comes to shove they push you right under the bus, again.Don't you hate it when you express genuine kindness to someone & they disregard it? True colors are not always pretty! When you think you know someone, take a step back and rethink that thought, the devil lurks closer than you think!Every time I think that this person is my friend, I get a brutal reminder that I'm wrong.You use me when you need me, but I have come to see that I no longer will allow that. You have used your time up, so go find someone else to hurt and take for granted.No matter how hard I cry, how loud I scream, how much I hurt inside, you'll never know cuz while I'm trying to help you with your life,you never ask how I am :(..THATZ WHY I CALLED U SUCH A SELFISH SINCE WE KNEW...I am not a Back-Up-Plan, don't treat me that way....You may look innocent but your eyes speak the truth. You are evil and don't care who you step on to get what you want...once somebody does something to u it will always be in ur mind will they do it again, yeah ..somethings never will change and u will never fully RESPECT them AGAIN..but sis'...dont worry..ALL ur SECRET safe with me til....???????

Monday 6 May 2013

EVERYBODY..somebody...ANybody...noBody..

terasa cili yang amat PEDAS...hAWWWTTT!!!!

REACT: MALAYSIAN PRIME MINISTER TUN DR MAHATHIR MOHAMAD







TERSENTUH KETIKA MEMBACA ARTICLE DI BAWAH......
 MARILAH BERSAMA LUANGKAN MASA UNTUK MEMBACA TULISAN
TUN MAHATHIR.
MENGAPA TUN MAHATHIR SEDIH?

SAYA sedih. Bukanlah saya berharap kerana kesedihan saya akan menarik simpati sesiapa. Hanya saya ingin menyatakan perasaan saya- perasaan apabila melihat kaum bangsa saya, orang Melayu, begitu sekali tidak tahu bersyukur, begitu sekali mudah lupa, begitu sekali mudah dipengaruhi dan diperalat oleh orang lain sehingga sanggup memburukkan bangsa sendiri.
Bagi generasi yang dilahirkan selepas merdeka tentulah mereka tidak merasai sendiri kehinaan yang dialami oleh orang Melayu semasa mereka dijajah dahulu. Tetapi takkanlah mereka tidak baca sejarah bangsa mereka.
Jika mereka sudah lupa, jika mereka tidak dapat memahami pahit maung, pedih perit bangsa yang dijajah, izinkan saya yang biasa dengan tiga penjajahan bercerita sedikit berkenaan orang Melayu semasa dijajah.
Rata-rata mereka miskin, tidak berilmu pengetahuan, tidak memiliki apa-apa kecekapan, tidak terdaya mempertahan negeri-negeri mereka. Mereka terpaksa bertuankan orang putih Inggeris yang mereka terima sebagai Tuan mereka di negeri mereka sendiri. Mereka bukan tuan rumah. Mereka sebenarnya hamba rumah yang diduduki orang lain.

Orang putih, secara terbuka menyatakan orang Melayu adalah bodoh dan malas, tidak mampu menyumbang apa-apa kepada pembangunan negeri-negeri mereka. Mereka hanya layak jadi pemandu kereta dan orderly atau budak pejabat atau kerani. Mereka dianggap tidak berkebolehan melaksanakan apa-apa kerja yang dipertanggungjawab kepada mereka. Orang asing dari India dan Cina perlu dibawa masuk untuk mengatasi masalah Melayu malas dan tidak cekap.

Datang Jepun. Orang Melayu hilang jawatan perkeranian dan jawatan-jawatan rendah yang lain. Mereka terpaksa jadi penjual pisang di tepi jalan - kais pagi makan pagi, kais petang makan petang.
Jika tidak tunduk serendah mungkin apabila lalu di hadapan askar Jepun, mereka dipaksa tatang ketulan batu yang besar sehingga mereka pening dan jatuh. Mereka diarah panjat pohon kelapa untuk dapat buah kelapa bagi askar Jepun. Jika gagal mereka ditempeleng dan terbongkok-bongkok meminta maaf daripada askar Jepun.
Tanpa bertanya sedikitpun akan pandangan orang Melayu sebagai pemilik negeri-negeri Melayu, Jepun menghadiahkan empat buah negeri Melayu, iaitu Kedah, Perlis, Kelantan dan Terengganu kepada Siam, kerana membalas budi Siam.

Di bawah pemerintahan Siam, orang Melayu diarah supaya menghormati lagu kebangsaan Siam dan bendera Siam. Saya lihat sendiri seorang orang tua Melayu yang tidak turun basikalnya semasa lagu kebangsaan Siam dimainkan, ditendang di kepala oleh askar Siam apabila lagu berhenti dan ia jatuh terlentang di atas jalan. Saya dan beberapa Melayu lain tidak berani menolong orang tua yang telah jatuh. Kami bangsa yang dijajah dan boleh ditendang oleh sesiapa yang menjajah bangsa kami. Jangan siapa tolong.
Kemudian, British kembali dan raja-raja Melayu diugut akan diturunkan dari takhta mereka jika tidak tandatangan perjanjian Mac Michael supaya negeri-negeri Melayu diserah secara langsung kepada British. Dan raja Melayu pun tandatangan dan diturunkan pangkat kepada kadi besar negeri mereka.
Cadangan Malayan Union British bertujuan menamatkan negeri-negeri Melayu sebagai Tanah Melayu, milik orang Melayu. Ia akan jadi milik siapa sahaja yang mendapat taraf rakyat Malayan Union milik British.
Dalam keadaan orang Melayu begitu miskin, daif dan tidak berilmu pengetahuan, tidak memiliki apa-apa kecekapan, tidak mempunyai senjata, tidak tahu berniaga, sudah tentu mereka akan menjadi kuli dan hamba kepada orang lain yang lebih pintar, lebih cekap dan lebih kaya daripada mereka. Sudah tentu tidak akan ada Tanah Melayu, tanah tumpah darahnya orang Melayu. Mereka akan jadi bangsa yang tidak bernegara, tidak bertanahair. Tidak ada masa depan bagi mereka.
Alhamdulillah. Di saat itu mereka tiba-tiba sedar. Berkat beberapa kerat di antara mereka yang terpelajar yang tahu akan malapetaka yang menanti bangsa mereka, mereka ketepikan sikap kenegerian mereka dan kesetiaan kepada raja masing-masing atau kepada keturunan mereka. Mereka bersatu dan bangun menentang rancangan Malayan Union British. Perpaduan Melayu yang tumpat ini, pendirian mereka yang tidak berbelah-bahagi berkenaan penolakan Malayan Union memaksa British gugurkan rancangan mereka dan kembalikan negeri-negeri Melayu bersama Pulau Pinang dan Melaka yang dimiliki British kepada orang Melayu. Maka terselamatlah orang Melayu dan negeri mereka.

Malangnya sekembalinya sahaja Semenanjung Tanah Melayu ke tangan orang Melayu, maka bermulalah rebutan untuk nikmat yang datang dengan pemerintahan sendiri, khususnya untuk menjadi ahli dalam dewan-dewan negeri dan dewan undangan Persekutuan. Keahlian ini menjanjikan pangkat, elaun dan lain-lain kemudahan.
Untuk bekerja sebagai budak pejabat memerlukan kelulusan tertentu. Tetapi untuk menjadi Yang Berhormat, menteri, bahkan Perdana Menteri tidak memerlukan apa-apa sijil atau kelulusan.
Yang kecewa, yang tidak dapat nikmat yang dikejar lupa akan nikmat perpaduan dan mereka tinggalkan UMNO untuk tubuh kesatuan mereka sendiri. Dengan ini mereka akan dapat dicalon oleh parti mereka untuk bertanding dalam pilihan raya yang akan datang.
Kumpulan pertama yang menubuh parti serpihan terdiri daripada ulama dalam UMNO yang kecewa kerana permintaan mereka supaya 10 daripada mereka dicalonkan oleh Tunku Abdul Rahman ditolak olehnya dan hanya satu sahaja yang diberi kepada kumpulan ini.
Tetapi Tuhan Maha Kaya. Rata-rata orang Melayu terus menyokong UMNO yang mana ini memberi kemenangan kepada UMNO dan rakan-rakannya. Demikianlah besarnya sokongan ini sehingga British terpaksa serah kuasa kepada Perikatan ciptaan UMNO. Jika Parti Islam mendapat lebih daripada satu kerusi, nescaya kemerdekaan tidak tercapai pada 1957.
Tanpa merampas hak orang lain, pemerintahan yang bertunggak kepada Melayu berjaya membangunkan negara dan memberi kepada bangsa Melayu dan bumiputera lain pelajaran, latihan dan peluang yang tidak pernah dinikmati oleh mereka semasa dijajah.
Berkat semua ini maka terpulihlah maruah bangsa Melayu. Alhamdulillah.
Ramalan bahawa pemerintahan yang dipimpin Melayu ini akan merampas hak dan harta kaum lain tidak menjadi kenyataan. Sebaliknya pimpinan yang diterajui Melayu berjaya memajukan negara sehingga dikagumi dunia.

Semua ini terang dan nyata. Dunia akui kebolehan orang Melayu yang memimpin Malaysia. Tetapi mereka belum sampai ke tahap bersaing dengan kaum lain terutama dalam bidang perniagaan dan perusahaan.
Malangnya kejayaan yang sedikit ini telah menjadikan mereka bongkak dan tamak. Rebutan kuasa antara mereka terus berlaku dan rebutan yang berpunca kepada ketamakan individu tertentu menyebabkan perpecahan dan serpihan daripada parti utama mereka.
Mereka yang kecewa kerana gagal merebut tempat menghasut ahli-ahli dan pemimpin kerdil untuk menyertai mereka, untuk menjayakan hasrat sempit mereka merebut kuasa, terutama untuk menjadi Perdana Menteri. Untuk ini mereka membohong, menyalahtafsir agama, menyokong orang lain yang tidak suka melihat orang Melayu meraih walaupun sedikit kekayaan, kedudukan dan nikmat yang terdapat di negara ini.
Hasilnya ialah perpaduan Melayu diganti dengan perpecahan. Orang Melayu yang dahulu digeruni oleh British kerana kukuhnya perpaduan mereka, sekarang berpecah kepada tiga kumpulan kecil yang terpaksa mengemis untuk mendapat sokongan orang lain termasuk mereka yang menentang segala usaha untuk mengimbangkan kedudukan orang Melayu dengan kaum-kaum lain.
Sokongan orang lain ini tidak diberi secara percuma. Jika mana-mana daripada parti Melayu ini memenangi pilihan raya dan mendirikan Kerajaan, tak dapat tidak Kerajaan ini akan terpaksa mengikuti telunjuk orang lain. Melayu tidak lagi akan menjadi tunggak kepada pemerintahan negara yang mereka rela berkongsi dengan orang lain. Mereka akan jadi puak minoriti dalam pakatan yang mereka sertai. Inilah yang akan terjadi hasil perpecahan orang Melayu.

Siapakah yang membawa malapetaka ini. Tak lain tak bukan malapetaka ini dibawa oleh orang Melayu sendiri - orang Melayu yang tamak, orang Melayu yang kurang pintar, orang Melayu yang mudah dipengaruhi nafsu, yang mudah dikuasai oleh perasaan benci apabila dihasut.
Orang Melayu sudah lupa akan betapa hinanya mereka semasa dijajah dahulu. Mereka tidak pun mengakui akan nikmat yang banyak yang dinikmati oleh mereka setelah merdeka dan mereka menerajui Kerajaan - Kerajaan Malaysia merdeka.

Oleh kerana lupa dan tidak bersyukur, mereka rela supaya perpaduan yang memberi kekuatan kepada mereka dimusnahkan. Mereka sanggup dipecah dan dipisah daripada kuasa yang sedikit yang ada pada mereka.

Sebab inilah yang saya sedih. Bangsa saya jelas tidak dapat menangani kejayaan. Bangsa saya mudah lupa. Bangsa saya tidak tahu bersyukur. Bangsa saya tidak tahu mengambil iktibar daripada nasib yang menimpa kaum sebangsa yang hari ini tinggal di wilayah yang dikuasai orang lain.
Jangan bersedih dan bersimpati dengan saya. Bersimpatilah dan bersedihlah dengan diri sendiri, dengan anak cucu yang akan alami masa depan yang gelap kerana kita tamak dan begitu benci kepada bangsa dan pemerintahan oleh kita sendiri.
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