SELF-DEVELOPMENT IS IMPORTANT IN A PERSON'S LIFE

In order for things to change in your life, in order to pursue where you want to be, you have to be into the person who is ready for the change. Self- development is vital to your success and has presented many opportunities in our lives. But where do you start if you want to begin your self-development journey? Some people felt wrong to change. It is not easy to build self-improvement. Actually, by starting with simple ones will give you boost and can enhances your confidence.

How can you figure out in which direction you need to develop yourself and grow now and in the nearest future and what your priorities are? Only by analyzing your current life and figuring out what kind of life you want to lead in the future, as well as what you need to do to get there. I believe that the first action is to take some time to self-reflect. Ask yourself.

What I want in my life?

What I want to be?

What I want to change?

How are my finances?

How are your relationships with family and friends?

Once you’ve had time to reflect, write down your thoughts and by putting those thoughts down on paper helps them to become real and will encourage you to follow them further. I also always ask myself, what I want in my life when I felt down. Self-reflect is so important in order to get better self-development journey.

Next is take a step. Just take a step. Taking a step is a start of moving your dream forward. Although you can never guarantee that all actions will result to success but it’s always much better than not doing anything. You will muster the courage to face your fears in the process of making small steps of action. Taking a step shows you are making a commitment. A commitment reflects the changes that we are ready to absorb in our life that really pleases you and keeps you happy. As keeping your soul happy will definitely build a happy and joyful personality and the surrounding environment happy. Once you make a commitment, some of the incredible doors will open for you.

For examples:

Build on your strengths:  I love reading and writing. Previously I don’t’ any idea that writing can be expand into digital media. So, what I do is create a blog and start posting my writing. How? I take a step by searching all the information regarding blog writing. Actually, constantly working on your skills will give rise to the ability where an individual will become master of his or her unique skills.

Overcome your fear and negative thoughts: We all know that no one is perfect in this world. Everyone on this earth have some fear and this fear thus retards the overall self-development. Hence you should always work and focus on the positive side of every aspect.  As for me, I have revenge issues and they’ve been destructive to some important relationships. To overcome this matter, what I do is find and talk to someone who is I think have positive vibes. Don’t be ashamed to call your longtime friend that you never reach out previously. You would be surprised that this friend will help you on your situations.

Forget the past: We often see people around us regretting for the things that they have performed in the past, in the form of mistakes, commitments, etc. which harm the self-development. So do I. I also have experienced down side when I resigned my job in 2016 as Department Manager in one of biggest retail store in Malaysia. Then I noticed that it won’t help me to find a new job.  Again, Self-reflect.  Hence, one should always focus on the present situations, leaving back the past. So, we should not spoil today’s happiness remembering the past.

Holiday: How about a break from the same, boring, tiring and stressful day or situation? You can plan a small vacation or holiday to please the body and refresh the mind, which in turn will automatically increase the graph of output that is being liberated by our body. Believe me, it always works. You will feel more motivated and will decrease some burden in your mind.

The life is competitive and tough you have to get tougher to achieve those higher goals. That is why crucial for everyone who aspires to accomplish anything have to make numerous attempts and keep on trying even after failing, when it comes to goals that truly matter to you. 

I know very well what it feels like when you cannot achieve a goals or what you want, you will spend days and nights thinking about it but I also know that there is only one solution to not let the absence of the desired outcome take your enthusiasm away from you. Just do things that are good for you, so you will become happy and healthy. You need the change to positive mindset. The moment you claim personal responsibility over your life, you will learn the importance of steering your own ship. You will start to make decisions for yourself and end up feeling less stressful and happier. We live in a digital information age. All the information is at our finger tips. Reflect. Research. Take a step and make on your own journey.

DEPRESSION IS TAKING OVER MY LIFE - HELP ME!

Hello guys.

What do you do when you felt so down? Stress or depression? How you handle this feeling? The loneliness? The pressure? It seems that nobody cares about you. This is the feeling that I try to avoid but human being have their own limitation. I am a person that always think positive. I believe whatever happen, I need to stay positive because in the end, it will solve no matter what. Unfortunately, I can’t hold this feeling anymore. I’m so depressed! 

Depression can negatively affect how you feel, the way you think and how you act. It seems that I’m going to be crazy! I’m so angry. My mood swing even it is not my period. It’s like a monster inside your head that takes over. This depression causes feelings of sadness, feeling worthless and guilty. I feel miserable and hopeless. I cried so bad! Why all this happen to me? Why my life is not as smooth as other people? Anything that was said to me, I managed to turn into a bad thing. I was literally my own worst enemy. I had no motivation to do anything and I believe everyone was faking their love for me. I wanted everyone to know how I felt but I didn’t dare to tell them. I keep all in my heart and mind so long and I think this is the trigger of my depression. On the day happen, I’m feeling so sick. I have bad headaches and my eyes hurt. I can’t sleep and I need something so that everything in my minds goes away. Then, I took 2 paracetamols and finally I can sleep.

I woke up on the next morning with mix feeling emotions. I felt so guilty to what I have done yesterday. I realized I need Allah. Yes, I know that I am not a good Muslim but I need Allah (SWT). Only Allah (SWT) can help me. Only Allah (SWT) can hear my misery. I prayed. I cried badly and I really pray so that Allah can forgive me and hope all my difficulties goes away. Alhamdulillah. I felt more calm. Ask and you shall receive. Yes, no matter how big your need is or how difficult you think your problem is or how messy your situation is it is a matter of Kun Fayakun for Allah (SWT). Have firm faith that your ‘dua’ will be answered and your wish will definitely be granted. Allah (SWT) is able to make all the ease into something difficult, as well as difficult into ease. Nothing is hard for Him because He is All Knowing and Almighty over all.

A lesson I learnt from this situation is there is nothing wrong in turning towards Allah (SWT) and asking His help in the times of hardship. A Muslim who turns to Him will realize that His help is far better than the help of some other person or the struggle, which a person makes personally. It is the way we deal with these hardships that matters and that effects the level and magnitude of suffering we experience in hard times. I should remain hopeful and complement the efforts I makes with faith in Allah (SWT) for getting through this hardship gracefully.

No matter what difficulties you’re facing, know that God has your back. He’s there even when things seem hopeless. He’s there when the circumstances are darker than you ever imagined. He's there when everyone has given up on you. Place your trust in him for he is ALWAYS there.

P/S: I wrote this a while ago when my feeling is terribly sad and now I'm OK already. I just want to share with you guys in case you have the same situation.

MY ENEMY IS MY FRIEND/FAMILY: CHOOSE YOUR CIRCLES WISELY

Hello guys.

Everyone has friends and families, right? Or, maybe everyone just thinks they do. Do you have an experience related to this topic? When your friend or family becomes your worst enemy or we can call it ‘frenemy/famnemy’. I define a frenemy/famnemy as a someone who respects and hates you at the same time. We all have them. That one friend or family we plaster on a smile for because we can’t stand him/her. It’s the one where we use air quotes when describing him/her as a “friend” or “family”. A frenemy/famnemy is someone you’re friendly with despite disliking him/her. Your dislike could be derived from rivalry or jealousy, or maybe he’s/she’s simply not your cup of tea. He/She could be an enemy you’re friendly with, or an untrustworthy person that you need to keep close tabs on because you can’t really trust him/her. Or he’s/she’s not really your friend/family that you might just pretend to be for one reason or another.

I started looking up the meaning of “relationship” mainly because we live in an era where nobody seems to remember the meaning of it anymore. I think the word relationship gets thrown around inappropriately these days. I look around and think about my own personal experiences and others that I have observed, and most everyone has had an experience where they thought their particular relationship was genuine, only to discover that betrayal or insincerity was present. It is all too common that people’s selfishness gets in the way of their ability to be a good friend or family member. Few things are more heartbreaking than discovering that the people closest to you never really cared for you or loved you. They only be with you because on your wealth or benefits that they can get from you and when you having a bad situation, they gone.

The best way to decide whether this relationship might not be healthy is to be honest with yourself about how you feel when you’re with them. Do you generally feel worse when you hang out with them? Do you feel drained of energy any time you spend time with them? Toxic relationship is bad for our mental health and wellbeing. If you can’t improve the relationship, you should think about letting it go.

So choose your circles wisely. Surround yourself with those who genuinely love others and who care more about morality than what people think about them. In the same way, be good to them. Be willing to put the needs of others ahead of yourself; that’s the true meaning of the word “friend” and “family”.

MORNING BRIEFING WITH ROTI JALA

Assalamualaikum

Hi guys.

How are you? Hope you guys are doing well and have an amazing day. Today, I’m having ‘Roti Jala’ for my breakfast. 

So yummy!!Rating: 4/5. My sister in law, Rafizah, make this ‘roti jala’ for her small business. For those who are staying at Alor Setar , Kedah, you can order from her. This is her contact no 013-4448850.

As you all known or probably not, I’ve been blogging since 2012 but not thoroughly into it. Just for fun. I started to focus on my blog contents on 2018 which is last year. I've posted many recipes, reviews and some travel trip. My blog basically is all about my interests, thoughts and passion of life. This is my motto:

Food Is My Passion

Music Is My Drug

Book Is My Pleasure

Travel Is My Therapy

Anything can be in my blog. There are no specific contents. I will share anything that come to my minds. It is like my digital journal of life. Hope you guys don’t get annoy by my posting. That’s all for my morning briefing.

Thank you very much for spending your time reading my blog.

EXAM RESULT

So sad today.....really unexpected....my exam result so bad...I hate it!....my FRIENDS is totally right!...Lecturer play main role in marking paper...Choose your lecturer wisely. haihhhh....no more words can describe how my feeling today....so damn sad!!

CARELESS & SELFISH

Why some people are so calculative in their life? This is Not only on their financial but also in any task. Even to get up from the chair to get SOMETHING to pass up...they are so lazy and wait for others to do their work.

I think this kind of people is so SELFISH.

Selfishness- A person who demonstrates that their personal needs and wishes are more important than those of others; inconsiderate of others' feelings. Sometimes, the more you do for people, the less they appreciate it, and that makes it really tough to find their way back over a bridge that has been burnt! Some people need to grow up and realize that they cannot live their lives at the expense of others. Grow up and earn your own way in life! If you are unhappy with how I help you, just remember I didn't have to do anything for you, but I chose to - many others wouldn't have bothered. I've learned a lot in life. Like how fake some people are, and how careless & selfish about other people’s feelings they are......

Selfishness will cause you loneliness in the end!!!